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Hi, I’m Lori, Psychologist and Modern Love Expert

Insights from a psychologist on navigating modern dating, overcoming breakups, and fostering security in relationships

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No one warns you about this part of dating after 30

Hi Reader, Dating in your 30s and 40s is layered. It’s complicated. It can feel heavy, scary, hopeful and sometimes like no matter which path you’re on, there’s pressure. I think of a woman who’s 32 and just went through a major breakup. She always thought she’d be a mom by now, and suddenly she’s back at square one, quietly panicking, wondering if it’s still going to happen for her. I think of a woman who’s crushing it in her career and respected by everyone in the room. She wants kids too,...

For years, I’ve helped women challenge scarcity beliefs in dating. You know the ones: “There are no good men left.” “All the best ones are married.” “Maybe I’ve waited too long…” As a therapist and coach, I guided clients to rewrite these beliefs, to shift from fear and scarcity to more hope and abundance. I believed that these unhelpful beliefs might get in the way of finding love. And, of course, it’s possible they do. But lately I’ve been rethinking this. I’ve been wondering if I got part...

Hi friends, I recently joined the Between Sessions with Berries podcast for a candid conversation about something I know a lot of us are wondering about: Can AI make us better therapists or is it here to replace us? We get into the emotional, ethical, and practical questions surrounding AI in our field. We talked not just about using AI tools, but about the human and existential side of this shift. How it feels, what it means for our identity as therapists, and how to move forward with both...

You know that moment when a new match suddenly goes radio silent? Leaves you on read for hours? Doesn’t reply, but you see them post a story? And then you start spiraling. Replaying and analyzing your last interactions 😩 Ugh ➡ “What did I say? Was I weird?"➡ “Maybe he’s just busy…”➡ “What if he had a bad day at work? Let’s be honest. You’re likely bargaining.And I say that with so much compassion, because I’ve done it too AND I see it every day in the women I work with. So what is bargaining?...

Seriously, though here’s how I’m using AI in my therapy practice this month The other day, I asked ChatGPT to go back through my most recent chats and summarize how I’ve been using AI in my business. Because I knew I’d been using it a lot and I wanted to get meta for a second (because well, I’m a therapist) Here’s what came up:Lately, my favorite use of AI is marketing support.Not in a “write everything for me” way but in a “make this sound sharper, clearer, and more me” way. A real example?...

Happy Sunday, I've been engrossed in Netflix's "Love is Blind" lately. It's one of the few shows I can get my husband to binge with me and we LOVE analyzing it! This has me thinking about how the accelerated intimacy of the pods is similar to what happens when we text a potential match a lot before meeting in person. "Love is Blind" - An Exploration of Quickened Intimacy Netflix's newest "Love is Blind" season delves into the enigma of creating bonds without physical proximity. Within mere...