Hi Reader,

Dating in your 30s and 40s is layered. It’s complicated. It can feel heavy, scary, hopeful and sometimes like no matter which path you’re on, there’s pressure.

I think of a woman who’s 32 and just went through a major breakup. She always thought she’d be a mom by now, and suddenly she’s back at square one, quietly panicking, wondering if it’s still going to happen for her.

I think of a woman who’s crushing it in her career and respected by everyone in the room. She wants kids too, but between the workload and the men she’s meeting (men who are just “seeing what’s out there” or not even thinking about kids yet) the timelines don’t seem to line up.

I think of a woman who finds herself choosing between chemistry and compatibility. Should she date the man who’s exciting but unreliable, or the man who fits her lifestyle but doesn’t make her heart race?

I think of a woman who is watching her friends get engaged, married, and pregnant. She feels both happy for them and a deep longing in her chest. She wonders if it will ever happen for her, or if she’ll be left behind.

Some women I meet are completely unaware that fertility even starts to shift in the early 30s. They tell themselves, “I can wait until I’m 40, no problem.” Others are on the opposite side, already freaking out, googling statistics at 2 a.m., feeling like time is speeding up too fast.

And maybe you’ve felt a little of both.

If any of this resonates with you, I just want you to know: you’re not the only one. And over the next few emails, I’m going to be talking about this more.

Talk soon,

Lori

Dr. Lori Husband

Dating Coach for Women | Psychologist​
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